Lessons learned

“I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”

― Marilyn Monroe

Every once in a while, you experience a sort of epiphany or revelation. You may have a change of heart or maybe just a change of perspective. My mind is somewhere else. My thought life is on a different path. I’m trying something new. I’m looking out through different eyes. Life will do that. Experience will do that.

Some things I’ve learned recently? Believe in your own strength. You’re a lot stronger than you think you are. Give yourself what you need. Think less about what you should be doing or thinking all the time and just let yourself do or think whatever comes naturally. Sometimes you need to just be. In fact, try to think less in general. You can’t control everything and overthinking things will do more harm than good. You don’t have to win everyone over. People will always have something to say. There will always be those who are quick to think the worst of you and who just don’t understand you. Don’t waste your energy caring about their opinion or trying to change it. You don’t have to defend yourself. They are just hateful and judgmental. Don’t let it affect you. Don’t let their weaknesses rub off on you. It’s ok to be hurt but don’t hold on to any resentment or anger. Just move on. Think bigger picture. Does it really matter what they think? Tell people how you feel about them. If you’re blessed with people you love and value in your life, tell them. It’s ok to need people. You can’t do it all on your own. Recognize when you need help and get the support when you need it. There’s no shame in that. Don’t be afraid of your emotions. Don’t compromise yourself for the benefit and comfort of others. Don’t hide. Love without expecting anything back.

Don’t take yourself so seriously. Have fun. Laugh. A lot. Do things that you know will make you happy, even if they’re unusual. Try new things. Don’t be weighed down by the negativity in your life. It doesn’t have to control you. Be genuine, be real, love yourself, love others. You're never alone.We're all just doing the best we can :)